What’s the Solution?

    I grew up in a home with mom and dad. I’ve had many friends who have gone through the divorce of their parents, and I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like. I watched them go through a lot of hard days, and I had no idea how to help or comfort them. There’s a lot of pain and sorrow that can occur to cause a divorce. It’s a scary thing for everyone involved. There’s many reasons why anyone would want to avoid a divorce. Here are some reasons why divorce isn’t always the best answer.

    When a couple meets and gets married, there’s a lot of people that are involved. Friends watch the couple meet and fall in love. Family watches them as they change and grow together. Most importantly, both the man and woman in the couple are willing to start a new life with the other. They are willing to commit to the other, ideally forever, and build a family. All come together to celebrate the marriage and show unified excitement for the couple and their future. Soon after, children begin to join the couple and form a family. Family and friends all around come together to support and love the children. So many relationships are built. Then, when the couple decides to divorce, there’s a lot of heartbreak that can occur. The two joined families are broken apart and separated, with only the children holding them together. Friends are prompted to choose a side, and let go of contact with other spouse. Children are put in so many different types of situations, depending on how active each parent is in their lives. The couple themselves go through many trials, with all aspects of it. They’ve likely gone through many emotional battles and changes to get to the point of separation. Their daily lives completely change. They watch those they love the most be directly affected by this change, and it is in no way easy to see. There’s a lot of pain and trial that comes with a divorce, which brings into question, is it worth it?

    There are many different situations that people may be put in where a divorce is the best decision. However, there’s also a lot of situations where a divorce may not be the best solution to a problem. That decision is left up to the individual. In the case where a divorce may not be the best decision, it is because the couple can take steps to repair what has been done. It may take a lot of struggle, decision making, and trials. Depending on the situation, all of it would be worth it. It would save a marriage, a relationship between two people who made that commitment so long ago. It would save children the pain and struggle. It would save friends and family all the sorrow, question, and concern of how and why it all happened.

    There may be ways to help save a marriage. It takes willing effort on both parts of the parents to work together and repair what needs attention. The more they work through, the stronger the couple gets. They can overcome more and more things. Over time, they are able to become reunified through both of their efforts. I imagine that it would be a long, difficult process, but I also imagine all the precious things that a couple would be saving if they reimagined new and alternate solutions to struggles and rough roads.